Two for One
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Title: Two for One----------------------------------------- Date: 04/09/2000
Keywords:
"friend" "someone" "two"
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temptation.
Passage: Ecclesiastes 4:9-10*
9. Two are better than one, because they have a good return for
their work:
10. If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man
who falls and has no one to help him up!
Questions
1. According to this passage, why are two better than one?
2. What happens to the man who falls and has no one to help him up?
3. Can you think of ways that a friend could help you in your
struggle against the temptation of internet porn?
Practical help
The exxit team strongly encourages you to seek out a trusted
Christian friend with whom you can talk honestly about your struggles. We know that may be
the last thing you want to do. Even if you see the need and would love to have someone to
talk to, you may think it would be impossible to find someone who would understand and not
judge you. But are you assuming that without having tried?
Let's think this through. Are you sure there's no one in your life
you can trust with this? Or are you unwilling to seek help unless you can do it
painlessly? Dear friend, to be quite honest, there is no way you are going to win this
battle unless you are willing to endure some pain and embarrassment. But living with this
secret is no picnic either, now is it?
You may not have a friend who'd feel comfortable giving you advice,
but do you have one you could call or go see when you are tempted? Do you have a friend
who'd be willing to ask you on a regular basis if you're staying away from the porn sites?
Do you have people in your life who would pray for you to avoid temptation, without having
to know a lot of detail?
Have you considered asking your pastor for help? Have you thought
about seeing a Christian counselor? There are lots of fine ones with experience in helping
people who are actually addicted to porn.
If you're a married man, would it be a good idea to tell your wife?
That's not a question we can answer for you, nor would we try. Needless to say it would be
excruciatingly painful for you both. For some people, though, it brings an end to the
deception and is the first step toward freedom and healing. Some questions to consider:
Are you sure your wife doesn't already know? How much longer are you going to be able to
keep it a secret? Would you be able to share this with your wife without shifting the
responsibility for change to her shoulders? Are you prepared for the pain it would cause
her? Would that pain be worse than the toll this problem may already be taking on your
relationship? Would your motive be to relieve your own anguish, or would it be to end the
deception and confess to the one you've wronged? Pray and think about these questions long
and hard before you make a decision.
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