I Did It to Myself!

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Title: I Did It to Myself!-------------------------------- Date: 11/6/2000
Keyword: "choice" "responsibility"
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Passage: Luke 15:1-32*

1. Now all the tax-gatherers and the sinners were coming near Him to listen to Him.

2. And both the Pharisees and the scribes began to grumble, saying, "This man receives sinners and eats with them."

3. And He told them this parable, saying,

4. "What man among you, if he has a hundred sheep and has lost one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the open pasture, and go after the one which is lost, until he finds it?

5. "And when he has found it, he lays it on his shoulders, rejoicing.

6. "And when he comes home, he calls together his friends and his neighbors, saying to them, 'Rejoice with me, for I have found my sheep which was lost!'

7. "I tell you that in the same way, there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents, than over ninety-nine righteous persons who need no repentance.

8. "Or what woman, if she has ten silver coins and loses one coin, does not light a lamp and sweep the house and search carefully until she finds it?

9. "And when she has found it, she calls together her friends and neighbors, saying, 'Rejoice with me, for I have found the coin which I had lost!'

10. "In the same way, I tell you, there is joy in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents."

11. And He said, "A certain man had two sons;

12. and the younger of them said to his father, 'Father, give me the share of the estate that falls to me.' And he divided his wealth between them.

13. "And not many days later, the younger son gathered everything together and went on a journey into a distant country, and there he squandered his estate with loose living.

14. "Now when he had spent everything, a severe famine occurred in that country, and he began to be in need.

15. "And he went and attached himself to one of the citizens of that country, and he sent him into his fields to feed swine.

16. "And he was longing to fill his stomach with the pods that the swine were eating, and no one was giving anything to him.

17. "But when he came to his senses, he said, 'How many of my father's hired men have more than enough bread, but I am dying here with hunger!

18. 'I will get up and go to my father, and will say to him, "Father, I have sinned against heaven, and in your sight;

19. "I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me as one of your hired men." '

20. "And he got up and came to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him, and felt compassion for him, and ran and embraced him, and kissed him.

21. "And the son said to him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and in your sight; I am no longer worthy to be called your son.'

22. "But the father said to his slaves, 'Quickly bring out the best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand and sandals on his feet;

23. and bring the fattened calf, kill it, and let us eat and be merry;

24. for this son of mine was dead, and has come to life again; he was lost, and has been found.' And they began to be merry.

25. "Now his older son was in the field, and when he came and approached the house, he heard music and dancing.

26. "And he summoned one of the servants and began inquiring what these things might be.

27. "And he said to him, 'Your brother has come, and your father has killed the fattened calf, because he has received him back safe and sound.'

28. "But he became angry, and was not willing to go in; and his father came out and began entreating him.

29. "But he answered and said to his father, 'Look! For so many years I have been serving you, and I have never neglected a command of yours; and yet you have never given me a kid, that I might be merry with my friends;

30. but when this son of yours came, who has devoured your wealth with harlots, you killed the fattened calf for him.'

31. "And he said to him, 'My child, you have always been with me, and all that is mine is yours.

32. 'But we had to be merry and rejoice, for this brother of yours was dead and has begun to live, and was lost and has been found.'

Questions

1. When the younger son landed in the distant country, what kinds of lifestyle choices did he make that got him into trouble?

 

2. What factors beyond the younger son's personal control contributed to make for an even more difficult situation?

 

3. Might it have been tempting for the younger son to have blamed his financial woes on the famine alone?

 

Practical help

This eXXit Bible study writer knows full well the dangers of trying to place blame for a sticky situation on others' shoulders. I have been guilty of wanting to place the whole blame for hardships I have experienced on a "famine." Closer scrutiny and a little honest introspection, though, have often revealed that I, personally, had a part in creating the difficulty.

In Jesus' parable, the younger son's dire situation began because of his own stupid, sinful choices (asking for his share of the inheritance, leaving home, spending his money on wine, women and song). It was exacerbated by the bad luck of having landed in a country that suffered a famine. I sincerely hope that the younger son quickly "owned" his responsibility in his problems, just as I hope that eXXit readers will learn to distinguish between the difficulties they experience because they live in a sinful world and the difficulties that come their way due to stupid, sinful choices to be involved with porn. Car trouble is one thing — it happens. Marital discord because your spouse is hurt beyond words over your Internet habits is another. Learn to take responsibility for problems you cause. If pornography is harming the ones you love, damaging relationships that mean something to you, degrading your view of people, turning your thoughts more and more to the sexually deviant, admit that you are causing the problem. Nobody else. You.

Taking responsibility is the first step to recovery.


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*"Scripture taken from the NEW AMERICAN STANDARD BIBLE®, © Copyright The Lockman Foundation 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995. Used by permission."